Man just tip and move to the next table dog (sorry about that some strippers make good therapist you might want to try it somtimes) your boy Twin 19 TW/H!
I think that some men can be too nice. Some of them try too hard and it backfires and interest is lost altogether. In my experience that was just the case, I felt as if he was doing things...everything... just to please me. Let me clarify. It was things like he couldn't make a decision it was "whatever I wanted" and I couldn't stand it. I would test him sometimes and yet I still got the same results. Now I'm not saying that I didn't appreciate some of the things that he did for me but I didn't like the fact that he was all wrapped up in me and that was it. It could have been the way that he was raised that may have caused him to be that way but I didn't find it attractive.
D12 during your lifetime you will encounter many, many people. Say if you met 1000 folks there may be one or two out of those that you connect with. I believe that you have NOT yet found the right person. There is a woman out there who is looking for a man who is kind, who treats her well, who does the things you do. You just have not found her yet. If all these folks you have dealt with so far have not appreciated you or who just want the sex they are not the one. But dont despair, have fun, have "just friends" live life fully while you are waiting.
Dee I know we been good friend for a while, and you are too nice to me, but Dee, is there something you trying to tell me , you old devil you. I'm just playing Dee, I play tooooooo much
GINA,u play too much! This topic isn't necessarily for me..not something I'm going thru,just a subject me and another female had yesterday..She was saying that this particular guy was "too nice"..I was confused on that,I consider myself a nice guy,I don't wanna miss out by being "too nice" At the same time, I just "be myself"
I feel that a man should show some control, assertiveness, demand, etc. while in a relationship as long as he means well. These things show how passionate a man is about his relationship, himself, family, and partner.
A man who is too laid-back and doesn't care what decisions his woman makes is scary. Not that a woman cannot make all the decisions, but the foundation is stronger with two minds instead of one. Talk about things together and compromise.
I, personally, need my man to put me in my place every once in a while and not let me do whatever I want, when I want (spending money).
Well D12 here is my "25: cents...
I personally don't think that a man can be to nice to a point that it will make me not want to date him... I want to be treated like the queen that I am!
However, if a man is doing things after we have established the level of friendship/relationship that we will have, in attempts to sway me.. I don't consider that being to nice, I consider that being an attempt to buy me.... Which is a No No..
Once the relationship is expanding and growing, that man should continue to be nice; but yes, have a Back Bone... A real woman will respect a man saying "NO" when necessary.. oohh I can't believe I said that.. I hate the word NO
As far as woman wanting to start as friends.. That is wise.. The perfect relationship is " homey, lover, friend right?...
Not dating your platonic male friend is also good.. I myself have many male "acquaintances" and a few male "friends" I would never cross the line and hope that they would never try.. That would make me uncomfortable.
Why do I prefer male as friends? Because their exist a species that I do not understand.. "The MAN" and who not better to look too for that perspective than a MAN...
I don't like to deal with the "typical female stuff" (notice, I said female..because real women don't get caught up in DRAMA) and if he is just a friend, he is more likely to be open and honest and non bias...and I can be that way with him....
I do have a couple of close female friends and my man is my best friend but honestly speaking there are times that I am stressing and will pick up the phone and call one of my boys!! and get a good laugh
and feel better.